This time I’m prepared … I’ve identified the potential areas for concern and the solution.
Area of concern 1: Term 2 is when my brain hits overload, the problem solving portion of my brain kicks into over drive and I resort to problem solving in my sleep. Last year I was very close to a breakdown by the end of term 2. So this year I’m prepared. When I say prepared what I mean is, I’m aware that I’m going to get stretched to my limit fairly quickly. That is, if I follow the same track that I did last year.. so I’m flagging it now. And, in true INFJ style, I’m going to try to preempt the problem, solve it, come up with a plan of attack and reduce the possibility of overload/breakdown happening.
INFJs place great importance on having things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives.
The Solution: I’m going to make what I’ll call a quarter-year resolution. Why bother doing this? Well once again I think I can trace it to the INFJ personality again.
INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves – there’s always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don’t often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right.
1. I am not going to try to everything perfectly. It’d be great if I could try to not to do anything perfectly, my employer and family members might not share my opinion here. But here’s the kicker – I might finish more projects if I managed to do this. I might try to do more things if I didn’t have to do everything perfectly. I’m going to yield my abilities, my capability and my potential to God.
2. I am not going to get too annoyed with those who are happy to do things less than perfectly. I am going to yield my high expectations of myself and others to Him. I know He won’t disappoint… Maybe I’ll be less disappointed with myself and others when I know I’ve done my bit in yielding to God.
[INFJs] … have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families…An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
Nope, I certainly don’t know anyone like that!
3. I am not going to try to solve all of the problems that those near and dear to me encounter. I am going to yield myself and my care and concern for those I love to Him.
INFJs are concerned for people’s feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalise conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.
4. I am not going to try to solve the problems that our antagonists create for us. I will resist the urge to come up with 3 or more solutions for each and every problem that is created by said antagonists. I’m going to try to hand it over to God from the start. I am going to yield to Him and His will.
5. I am not going to try to yield, I am going to yield.
I’ve learnt a bit about yielding over the years. I have yet to experience that yielding is a bad thing. So… you’d think I’d remember this – right? Yeah, well clearly I don’t. I’m a bit inclined to struggle my way through life under my own steam, in my own strength … you know this if you’ve read anything I’ve ever written. It’s a bit of a recurring theme here. As the man says to me on days when I’m flailing around – “There’s this blog you really should read about this stuff – I’ll send you the link.” Hopefully he’ll send me the link when things go awry.
To yield means –
to give up, as to superior power or authority: to give up or surrender (oneself): to give up or over; relinquish or resign: to give as due or required.
As a fairly independent person I struggle to do this. But as a Christian it is something I need to do more often and better. The occasions in my life that I could pinpoint actually having done it, it hasn’t resulted in anything other than blessing.
So for now I’m not going to say too much more (finally a short post!) about it all other than I’m going to try it. I’m going to fail sometimes, I know that in advance because I know that while God desires me to be totally dependant on Him, my sinful nature desires to be totally independent of Him. I know, at this point in time, that I’m going to try to sneak back into the drivers seat .. when I can’t see the road ahead – and I’m probably going to head
back to look for the familiar paths again, you know it, I know, God knows it.
Hopefully at that point I’ll come across one of these signs … while the words are different here in Australia, the shape remains the same. Hopefully that will be enough to serve as a reminder for this visual artist… YIELD ..
It’s interesting that in writing this I’ve had a few breaks to get dinner happening, assembled some vegetable kebabs etc. Yep the new BBQ has been fired up again!
I might add that I’ve already failed on point 2. I guess I probably should mention, for those of you following along at home, that yielding is something that works really well in practice and is far less successful in theory.
So let’s you and I pretend that I meant to start this yielding business the minute that I hit the publish button… and …. publish