In less than 48 hours (I can’t do the math – you know this about me) we will be celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary.
The Hallmark site gives some very handy tips for those about to celebrate an anniversary for example, how to write in a card and how to wrap a present! Now these tips are all well and good, if the card and the present are present. Alas, they are not.
I would like to take this moment to point out that, what the Hallmark site has neglected to do is provide the necessary advice for when the amazing gift one has organised, that is not only beautifully reminiscent of the wedding day, but also meets the requirements of the traditional gift, and furthermore is suitably personalised so as to make it original, and so incredibly thoughtfully selected that it also meets the requirements of no fewer than two love languages “gift giving” and “quality time” maybe even “words of affirmation” — doesn’t arrive on time.
To my husband reading this right now, I know what you’re going to say: I don’t need a gift I have you. And we both know that’s exactly why you do need a gift. Yes, you do – the “having” of me to which you refer, definitely qualifies you for multiple gifts as I’m quite possibly not exactly the catch you herald me as being … you have most certainly earned a gift or two. (Though maybe not the tractor you wish for – give that a few more years.)
I’m going to be honest, the “back up present for when the real present doesn’t arrive” is kind of disappointing, so in addition to that, I’ll give you some words. Yes, these words are arriving a day or so in advance, and even as I do this, I am holding out hope that the gift and card will somehow speed through customs and arrive. Though, in hindsight I’m now a little worried that I may have over described the amazingness of the gift, and built it up to be so impressive, that when it arrives it will be a disappointment. (See folks, I am a real treat to live with!)
We, he and I, have come a long way over the past five years, and we’ve certainly weathered a few storms. We’ve dealt with more opposition than most people have to over the course of their marriage. We’ve both been refined to the point that we might be different people to the ones who stood under that tree 5 years ago and made those declarations in the presence of our God, our family and our friends.
We weren’t naive really – we knew we’d face some challenges but maybe we didn’t consider just how many of them would come our way or in what a quick succession they would present themselves. We can be thankful that those challenges, while designed to drive a wedge between us, were used by our God to strengthen our faith in Him and to solidify and strengthen our relationship with each other.
So, husband of mine, let me give you a quick summary of my perspective of the past five years:
- You have continually demonstrated your willingness to be a man after God’s heart.
- You have repeatedly proved your willingness to be forgiving of, and patient with, a woman who has, at times, been at war with you, and herself.
- You have never attempted to confine or cage me.
- You have instead been instrumental in the mending of my wings, and the healing my heart and mind – your patience and encouragement have been crucial in the development of who I am. (I’m not sure how much credit you’d like to take for that 😉 )
- You have always encouraged me to do more than I think I can, you have always seen the best in me.
- You have never restricted or limited me.
- You have never once thrown anything that I’ve said, back at me and that must be hard! I know it can’t be that you have memory issues – it’s that you are the most gracious man I’ve ever met.
- The words “I told you so” have never once exited your person – I wish I could say the same.
- You have never been anything but forgiving and kind.
- You have lead and continue to lead our family with humility.
- You daily seek to demonstrate the meaning of “husband love your wife even as Christ loved the church” …
You continue to be the most patient man I know,
the most generous,
the most easy-going (sometimes frustratingly so),
the most caring man I know.
To me, you are, the best of men.
Happy Anniversary, sorry my most magnificent gift probably will not arrive on time 😦
All my love to you, in the words of Don Maclean… And I Love You So …
NB: You have never attempted to curb my shoe buying – but rather you have encouraged it (enabled it).